I am a Quitter

A person running in the distance.

As you may or may not have noticed, I have been MIA from this blog for the past few weeks. Everything has a reason behind it. Looking at the title, this post may not be what you think it’s about. I am not quitting the blog. Don’t be absurd for thinking that.

I gave myself a small break as I went through the process (and aftermath) of quitting a full-time job at a dealership.

You may have seen me talk about this job in the past and I will most likely use it as a learning experience as well as in analogies for the rest of my life as I continue to write and tell stories…. and well, sometimes you need to quit.

First things first… if you call yourself a Christ-follower, you need to realize that if your job is causing you to sin, you quit; no questions asked. It is not right to make any amount of money if your employer or coworkers are causing you to forge numbers, lie, steal, etc. If you are doing anything that breaks God’s commands, while on the clock, you are not doing God’s will…. or should I say, you ARE GOING AGAINST God’s will.

I want to make sure we are clear that this case is directed for anyone forced to sin and not those who choose to sin while on the clock. You should know the difference in your circumstance if it ever comes to question. Someone telling you to lie is one thing, but doing it to look or feel good is another issue. I am guilty of this.

Quitting isn’t always that bad.

There are many reasons as to why quitting may be the better option. If your heart is not in it, you will get burned out. I truly believe that there needs to be something that makes you look forward to working the following day. It doesn’t need to be the most joyful job, but you do need to find joy in the job. It’s not healthy if you are only thinking about how much you dislike something from moment to moment. Burnouts are a result of mental and emotional breakdowns. Whenever the day comes that you start counting the hours and minutes that you have to clock out right after you clock in, you need to change something.

Quick Side Note
If you are quitting a job, simply because it is too hard, know that a job = work. Very few find a job that doesn’t require any effort. Imagine if everybody quit something because it was hard or not appealing? Jesus asked God to change his end goal if possible (Luke 22:42). He wanted to quit but realized there was a greater means to an end.

Being a quitter may seem like you are taking the easy way out of a situation, but that is far from the truth. It is a bad reputation society gives quitters and we can see this through names given to people who quit, such as; drop-out, quitter, cop-out, lazy, loser, weak/weakling, and, of course, some more derogative terms like coward or p*$%y (these and many more will be told to those who want to drop something). It is commonly seen as a weakness of character. If you are called a quitter, the person speaking those words may not understand the stress and the long thought process you had to make that decision. Quitting heeds a lot of courage. You want the best for anyone and everyone involved in the decision to leave the job, relationship, or hobby/habit. Don’t let the last decision in your job become a selfish action, especially if it causes pain towards others.

What’s on the other side of this decision?

Are you seeking something better? I truly believe that we need to grow in all parts of our life. If something is holding you back from growth, think about how quitting can cause you to become better. Don’t quit, only to find out you are going to find yourself in the same situation 6 months or a year from now. This may mean having to first plan out how you will financially support yourself for the time being.

What is your desire? Your motivation? Your drive?

Another side note
The car industry may have not been for me. In my opinion, it is a very stressful job. BUT (This is a big But), if your motivation to work is getting the big bucks, get into it. Salespeople, financial managers, service advisors, and an office job in the industry calls for a big paycheck… I don’t really care about that (not now, anyway), but maybe that’s what you need/want.

The longer I thought about staying, the more I felt like I was going to get stuck. I recently graduated from college and I took this job so I won’t lay on the couch all day at home. This job did not have anything to do with what I went to school for and I didn’t see myself growing in it. The ladder that I was told I could climb did not lead to my destination (or my career).

I recently went to Urgent Care for something entirely unrelated to this post, but I told the Doc about my situation and he shared a number with me; only 20% of people land a job related to what they went to school for. This is not only discouraging but also sets a challenge for me. Do I want to be a part of that result? I think we need to all ask ourselves that question. How determined are you to find the job you want?

Again, this is for any situation. How much do you desire a particular college/university? How set is your mind to master a new task, skill, hobby? Every time you quit, there needs to be something on the other side of the door (decision).

Never Alone

When it comes to making a decision to drop something, make sure your reasoning checks out as valid. What is your morality and how does your decision affect that.

The ever-so-popular pastor, John Piper, has an answer to the question, “When should Non-quitters quit?” that I recommend you to listen/read over this.

Part of making that decision means that you don’t have to figure it out alone, either. Most importantly, seek counsel and advice from more than one mentor, friend, family member, etc. This is not an easy decision and you want to make sure you are not going through a temporary phase. And, assuming that you are a Christian, remember that the church is a community. Don’t let yourself believe that you need to go through big changes alone. Quitting certain things, such as a job, may have many consequences. I’ll make it simple: be responsible.

I wanted to talk about this complicated circumstance I found myself in because I wanted to make sure that if anyone felt a similar way, they could find hope.

At the end of the day, you don’t want to leave and quit something on a bad note. I recommend that you wholeheartedly pray for the others involved. Pray for the other in the relationship you’re breaking even if you don’t like them anymore. Pray for your co-workers and employers, regardless of whether they treated you well or not. Leave whatever you are quitting better than you found it or, at the very least, in good hands.


If you’re on social media, follow me on Twitter @Juanlm1331 and on Instagram @Juan.unfltrd.blog

 

P.S. I couldn’t find a good picture that went along with the content of the post. When you search the word, “Quit”, or something related, you get an enormous amount of pictures that have to do with quitting smoking. Makes sense, I guess. I liked that picture of someone “running away”.

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